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Jesus Came to Heal the Broken Hearted
Jesus said in Luke 4:18-19, Jesus Isaiah, "The Spirit of the Lord is upon me because he has anointed me to preach the gospel to the poor; he has sent me to heal the brokenhearted, to preach deliverance to the captives, and recovering of sight to the blind, to set at liberty them that are bruised, to preach the acceptable year of the Lord."
Prov 15:13 "A merry heart maketh a cheerful countenance: but by sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken." (KJV)
That means the Lord came to do all of the following: heal the brokenhearted, bring deliverance to the captive and heal the sick. According to the Bible, the heart is the center of spiritual activity and all the operations of human life. "Heart" and "soul" are often used interchangeably. A wounded spirit or Broken Heart is hurting. A person with a wounded spirit lives in inner misery and focuses regularly on his injuries or pain and cannot receive the cleansing. Usually, there is unforgiveness in a wounded heart, and unforgiveness and bitterness are the glue that holds the pain in your heart. Forgiveness is one of the major steps to bring healing and peace to a person.
If you have a broken heart, you cannot experience the love of God, love yourself, or love others properly. You are in fear of relationships with God, yourself, and others. If not healed, you will not have peace with God, yourself, and others, then Satan can have the marrow of your bones.
If Satan can get you to violate the principle of teaching of the law and the prophets, your marrow is his to bring about disease.
Why is the heartbroken?
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Our need for love is our most basic need; all our other needs are satisfied when we are loved. When this basic need is unmet, it forms a strong foundation for other hurts and trauma. In other words, traumatic events in our lives will affect us more severely when we have unmet needs. Our ability to cope with stressful situations is then damaged and distorted, creating a broken heart.
Satan wants to take from you your relationship with God, yourself, and others. Satan is the executor of the curse. If he can get you to listen to his lies, you are a prisoner of negative thoughts by Satan.
accepted
cherished
loved
acknowledged
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Satan wants to take from you your relationship with God, yourself, and others. Satan is the executor of the curse. If he can get you to listen to his lies, you are a prisoner of negative thoughts by Satan.
Symptoms of a Broken Heart
If the spirit is damaged, wounded, or corrupted in any way, our ability to relate usually to others, ourselves, and God is hampered. For a small minority of the injured, the damage is only slight; they can get on with their lives, with the hurt causing only a minimum of irritation or inconvenience. Many more of the wounded are more affected and limp through life.
They survive a relatively everyday life but fail to realize their full potential in their friendships, marriages, day-to-day relationships with others, and God's full potential for them. Then, there are those with extreme or severe damage to their spirit. These people are greatly incapacitated and dysfunctional with all manner of emotional, spiritual, physical, mental, relational, and financial. These people are forced to crawl or need to be carried through life.
Has anyone ever told you that you have a broken heart or tried to help you get your heart healed! Have you met people who, no matter how hard they try to walk, seem to fall, or one day have faith and the next not have the faith but be full of doubt and unbelief? That’s because they have a broken heart and cannot stand it. You can tell them to stand on the word and quote promises, but they cannot stand.
You have difficulty believing what God has done for you when you have a broken heart. You are accepted, a child of God, etc. You lose sight or never come to understand our inheritance or identity in Christ. Your thoughts are filtered through life experiences because of negative thoughts stuck in the past with the pain of the past.
For every thought that arises in your mind, there is a corresponding electrochemical reaction in your brain. Every time you think, chemicals flow feedback loops.
Each of these actions has a chemical and an electrical component. Emotions that regularly release a torrent of destructive chemicals and will be the most damaging over time are:
So when someone is hurting because of a broken heart, as I said earlier, life is filtered through life events, and so you can quote the word of God or the promises to someone, the promises don't come. Why? Because your heart is broken. You have holes like a bucket with holes in it. You put the promises of God in the bucket, but they flow out of the holes because you are not able to overcome the rejection, abandonment, guilt, shame, fear, and a host of other tormenting fruit from Satan’s kingdom. The promises don't come because of unforgiveness towards those who hurt you.
Looking at Thought
For every thought that arises in your mind, there is a corresponding electrochemical reaction in your brain. Every time you think, chemicals flow feedback loops.
These chemicals produce electromagnetic waves. At any moment, your brain creatively performs about 400 billion actions, of which you will only be conscious of around 2000.
Each of these actions has a chemical and an electrical component. Emotions that regularly release a torrent of destructive chemicals and will be the most damaging over time are:
· Anger and rage
· Resentment
· Depression
· Worry
· Anxiety
· Frustration
· Fear
· Excessive grief
· Guilt.
Research shows 87% of illnesses can be attributed to our thought life and only 13% to diet, genetics, and environment. Medical science has directly linked emotions such as depression to an increased risk of cancer and heart disease.
So when someone is hurting because of a broken heart, as I said earlier, life is filtered through life events, and so you can quote the word of God or the promises to someone, the promises don't come. Why? Because your heart is broken. You have holes like a bucket with holes in it. You put the promises of God in the bucket, but they flow out of the holes because you are not able to overcome the rejection, abandonment, guilt, shame, fear, and a host of other tormenting fruit from Satan’s kingdom. The promises don't come because of unforgiveness towards those who hurt you.
Betrayal Breaks the Heart
Many times, a person with a broken heart has suffered from betrayal. Betrayal is like piercing your heart with a dagger, and all the wind of life has left you. You actually lose breath when someone betrays you, especially when it is someone you trust. The pain can be inbarrable.
A person with a broken heart usually ends up with diseases because many times a person is caught up on the performance wheel. Are you madly striving to prove to the world and yourself that you have value or worth! Are you trying to gain love and acceptance from parents by doing things always right but never getting recognition or acceptance? Or did you simply shut down, living in a silent, merciless hell of isolation, or a little of both?
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The Hebrew word translated broken is a strong word. It means "Wrecked, shattered, even crippled or maimed." The Hebrew word for wounded is “to profane (to profane oneself, defile oneself, pollute oneself a) ritually b) sexually), defile, pollute, desecrate:
Have you been told to grab your promises and stand on them, confess them until they happen - that is biblical, depending on how it was taught. Are you said to give for your healing to these faith preachers and did not get your healing or blessing? Maybe they are wrong. You’ve been told in Proverbs 3:5 to Trust the Lord with all thy heart. How can you trust the Lord or have faith to stand on the promises of God with a broken heart!
The faith preachers tell you to grab your promises and have faith to get your crops to come in. Your crop doesn’t come in because you have a broken heart. After all, you have a breach in love. You are not able to stand totally in faith. How important is faith? We are told without faith, it is impossible to please god (Mark 11:22-23).
We are supposed to meditate on the promises of God. With a broken heart, you will be hindered and not able to stand 100% of the time in faith in God. You will have doubt and unbelief come into your mind from Satan, the father of lies, telling you that you are rejected and unlovable, etc., causing more emotional pain. He will say that God really doesn’t love you.” You will believe it and stop standing for the promises because, with a broken heart, it is hard to believe in the truth.
Hebrews 10:17: “And their sins and their lawless deeds I remember no more." A person with a broken heart walks in guilt. It does not matter how often you tell them they are forgiven, they still walk in guilt, shame, condemnation from the enemy. It becomes a stronghold in the mind.
When you have a stronghold, you have something that has a hold of you, and you cannot behave any differently than from that character or nature of that stronghold. For example, you will view the world with fear if you have fear. When the light comes through the filter of fear, rejection, guilt, shame, etc.
A stronghold is a strongman, a devil with a hold on your life that has a characteristic that is antichrist, and it behaves that way. Most often, it will sound like your own voice. Most people, Christians, have been fellowshipping with devils by believing the lies of the enemy or submitting to the lies. Spiritually rooted circumstances require spiritual results.
Paul talks about casting down imaginations (the strongholds) in 2 Corinthians 10:5. What are the imaginations? First, we need to realize there are two spirit world realities (Satan and God). Imaginations are lies from Satan. From Satan, you will hear such things as you are a loser, you are not good enough, you are not going to make it, never be healed, set free, etc. It is all the things that go against what God says he wants for you. We are to cast down imaginations. That’s why Paul talks about how weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty through God for pulling down strongholds and casting down vain imaginations against God.
Whose report are you going to believe? Are you going to feel the lies of the past from parents, siblings, teachers, etc., or believe in God's word in what he says about who you are?
Looking at Thought in What Negative Thoughts Do to Your DNA
DNA on the inside.
The hypothalamus is the heart of your hormonal system, and it responds to
Then, be a true responder to your emotional state. It is the reason that a toxic thought life can destabilize your brain and create a frenzy of broken feedback loops, disrupting the natural flow and balance of chemicals in your brain. This, in turn, will affect your emotional and physical state.
The answer the world gives to try and help people suffering from mental and physical health problems related to negative emotions is “happy pills” – pharmaceutical drugs aimed at trying to change the brain’s chemistry and make us feel good. In turn, chemicals-related hypothalamus can claim tree-like branches at each dendrite via the five. synapses (small chemical gaps) between neurons that form interconnected neural circuits.
Whenever you think, whether your thoughts are toxic or not, you build a memory (information) on your thought trees, one on the left side of your brain and one on the right side. Double all the content of your thinking. The more you believe, the more you understand. The more focused and aware your thinking, the more this synergy will occur and the stronger the memory you will build. This literally means that the branches of the thought trees become firmly attached.
They provide all the support, resources, and backup, including the nourishment and protection your neurons need to do all that hard work in receiving, analyzing, processing, and storing information. Glial cells also operate as your cleaners generated by the thought trees. So, the glial cells, in effect, sort out your thinking.
They can’t do a good job unless you think clearly. Brain-cell. They dispose of waste material. Faith and fear are spiritual forces with chemical and electrical representation in the body.
How can you have faith and peace with God and rejoice in the hope of the glory of God in your sufferings and tribulations if you have a broken heart? You cannot! If you have a broken heart, again, you will believe the lies of the enemy telling you lies that are opposite to God’s word.
Jesus didn’t say that bad things would not happen to you, but He gave you the tools to be healed through the Gospel of Christ.
In Psalms 147:3, Scripture states, speaking of God: "He heals the broken in heart, and binds up their wounds." Hebrews 4:14-16 states Jesus lived a life of sorrows and understood how to heal the broken heart!
We all deal with unfinished business and unresolved issues; time doesn't necessarily heal old wounds of abuse; healing is slow and arduous.
How do you know if you have a broken heart? Read the list below. A person with a deep, broken heart struggles in many of the areas listed below:
How does someone get a broken heart?
Here are some of the ways (abuse, unkind words, sorrow, betrayal, false accusations, divorce, rejection/abandonment, trauma, conditional love, etc.) listed below:
Abuse - Abuse takes on four forms: physical, spiritual/religious abuse or cult abuse (emotional, mental, and verbal), sexual and psychological abuse (emotional, mental, and verbal). Abusers are usually brought up in a dysfunctional family. The more abusive the adult, the more dysfunctional the family …and so on. Most people are never taught parenting skills.
"Scorn has broken my heart and has left me helpless. I looked for sympathy, but there was none, for comforters, but I found none" Psalm 69:20.
Definitions of types of abuse are outlined below:
Physical abuse - including assault and any deliberate act resulting in physical injuries, including beatings in the guise of corporal punishment but which are delivered with fists or to the child's head.
Spiritual and/or Religious, including:
A church can do spiritual abuse on adults.
A pastor or minister usually subjects their church members to a hierarchical structure that equates leadership with job titles and demands unquestioning submission and obedience from people lower down the organizational totem pole. In an abusive church, the use of guilt, fear, and intimidation to control members is likely to produce members who have a low self-image, who feel beaten down by legalism, and who have been taught that asserting oneself is not spiritual. Control-oriented leaders attempt to dictate what members think, although the process is so spiritualized that members usually need to realize what is going on.
Sexual abuse - including incest, rape, buggery, or any pedophile activity for the gratification of the abuser. The abuser usually has a sexually dysfunctional or unsatisfying relationship with their partner; sexual relations may be violent, inadequate, or non-existent, and the child becomes a convenient substitute. Children who have suffered from sexual abuse usually have a great deal of shame/guilt and self-hatred toward themselves and others.
Emotional abuse, including:
Unkind Words - The old saying, "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me," is a dangerous lie. Words have spiritual values. They can create life in our spirit or they can produce death. Negativity and criticism can do more to wound and bruise the spirit than physical violence. Maybe you had parents or a father who had spoken negative words or another way of saying it, “word curses” over your life, and you believed them.
"The tongue has the power of life and death" Proverbs 18:21.
"A lying tongue hates those it wounds and crushes, and a flattering mouth works ruin" Proverbs 26:28. "The tongue that brings healing is a tree of life but a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit" Proverbs 15:4. “The words of a man’s mouth are as deep waters” (Proverbs 18:4).
Out of the same mouth proceed blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not to be so. Does a spring send forth fresh and bitter water from the same opening? Can a fig tree, my brethren, bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs?” (James 3:10-12).
Betrayal - This is indeed a very hurtful thing to work through, especially a betrayal of confidence.
David knew the power and hurt of betrayal, and he guarded against it as much as possible. Jesus warned there would be “many offended, and shall betray one another” (Matthew 24:10). The keeping of promises and confidences is very necessary if we do not want to be guilty of wounding our friends. Jesus was betrayed!
False Accusations – Is being falsely accused by someone else about you.
Sometimes, it is because of jealousy; occasionally, it is just enjoying seeing one put down; other times, it is ignorant gossip. Many false accusations have no effect upon us, but then there comes one that is “a bit close to the bone.” It is directed at a loved one, yourself, or your ministry. If we don’t see those false accusations as being what they are – false!
We can take the accusation “on board,” which lodges in our spirit. We get wounded. This is where honesty is so important. We have to be honest with God, ourselves, and other people. If the accusation is false, keep it false. Don’t allow the enemy to “take us out” because we react wrongly. (If the accusation happens to be accurate, then we need to do something about it).
- This is another “biggie,” especially as it is so rampant in society today. To experience going from one extreme of being so in love with someone that you marry that person and then to see it all change to the point where they can no longer love and live together is a great tragedy. It affects the emotions, afflicts the mind, throws the children into turmoil, upsets the wider family and relatives, and changes one’s life. Rejection can become a huge issue. Many hurts are picked up. Attitudes are hardened! Later, if those wounds are not dealt with and healed, the “baggage” from the broken marriage is carried over to a new relationship. Often, the process repeats itself. More hurt and wounding eventuate.
Rejection/Abandonment – Some children have had extreme rejection or abandonment from parents because of an unwanted pregnancy or being born at an inconvenient time. This opens the door for a spirit of fear and abandonment, which can be the physical or emotional spirit of abandonment.
Most people have deep fears of rejection and abandonment, as well as of domination and engulfment. These fears stem from childhood experiences and from defining our worth externally through others’ approval rather than internally through spiritual eyes of truth. We will be unable to share our love to the fullest extent until we heal these fears of the loss of others and the loss of self. We will be unable to create a safe relationship space to share love and a safe world in which to live until we learn how to create safety within.
Trauma – A reaction to trauma is the person's tendency to identify himself/herself as a victim. See abuse that covers some types of trauma. Trauma creates a door point for a spirit of fear to come into a person's life, creating fight-to-flight responses.
Again, there are different types of trauma. Trauma can happen through natural disasters, war, attacks, sexual abuse, ritual abuse, spiritual, psychological, and physical violence, abandonment from the family, living alone in the streets at a young age, etc.); the main characteristic is the person’s impossibility to face the experience.
- Heart Disease - Mitro Valve Prolapse
- Low Thyroid
- Blood Disease
- Chronic Fatigue
- Environmental Allergies
- Food Allergies
- Back Pain - Arthritis
- Asthma
- Depression
- Multiple Personality Disorder - DID
- Leg Restless Syndrome
- ADD / ADHD
- Learning Disability
- Chronic Bronchitis
- Epilepsy
- Insomnia
- Extreme Anxiety
- Panic Attacks
- Extreme Fear
- to violate the honor of, dishonor;
- to violate (a covenant), 4) to treat as standard.
Have you been told to grab your promises and stand on them, confess them until they happen - that is biblical, depending on how it was taught. Are you said to give for your healing to these faith preachers and did not get your healing or blessing? Maybe they are wrong. You’ve been told in Proverbs 3:5 to Trust the Lord with all thy heart. How can you trust the Lord or have faith to stand on the promises of God with a broken heart!
The faith preachers tell you to grab your promises and have faith to get your crops to come in. Your crop doesn’t come in because you have a broken heart. After all, you have a breach in love. You are not able to stand totally in faith. How important is faith? We are told without faith, it is impossible to please god (Mark 11:22-23).
When you have a stronghold, you have something that has a hold of you, and you cannot behave any differently than from that character or nature of that stronghold. For example, you will view the world with fear if you have fear. When the light comes through the filter of fear, rejection, guilt, shame, etc.
A stronghold is a strongman, a devil with a hold on your life that has a characteristic that is antichrist, and it behaves that way. Most often, it will sound like your own voice. Most people, Christians, have been fellowshipping with devils by believing the lies of the enemy or submitting to the lies. Spiritually rooted circumstances require spiritual results.
How To Heal A Broken Heart
Paul talks about casting down imaginations (the strongholds) in 2 Corinthians 10:5. What are the imaginations? First, we need to realize there are two spirit world realities (Satan and God). Imaginations are lies from Satan. From Satan, you will hear such things as you are a loser, you are not good enough, you are not going to make it, never be healed, set free, etc. It is all the things that go against what God says he wants for you. We are to cast down imaginations. That’s why Paul talks about how weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty through God for pulling down strongholds and casting down vain imaginations against God.
Whose report are you going to believe? Are you going to feel the lies of the past from parents, siblings, teachers, etc., or believe in God's word in what he says about who you are?
Looking at Thought in What Negative Thoughts Do to Your DNA
If you have been repeatedly verbally abused by someone at work, or if you were sexually abused as a child, all the thoughts associated with those experiences will release harmful chemicals - those are filters in how you look at life.
These chemicals can change the shape of the receptors on cells lining your heart, thereby increasing your susceptibility to cardiovascular illness.
The hypothalamus is the heart of your hormonal system, and it responds to
The hippocampus to release to the emotions attached to the thought.
Then, be a true responder to your emotional state. It is the reason that a toxic thought life can destabilize your brain and create a frenzy of broken feedback loops, disrupting the natural flow and balance of chemicals in your brain. This, in turn, will affect your emotional and physical state.
The answer the world gives to try and help people suffering from mental and physical health problems related to negative emotions is “happy pills” – pharmaceutical drugs aimed at trying to change the brain’s chemistry and make us feel good. In turn, chemicals-related hypothalamus can claim tree-like branches at each dendrite via the five. synapses (small chemical gaps) between neurons that form interconnected neural circuits.
Whenever you think, whether your thoughts are toxic or not, you build a memory (information) on your thought trees, one on the left side of your brain and one on the right side. Double all the content of your thinking. The more you believe, the more you understand. The more focused and aware your thinking, the more this synergy will occur and the stronger the memory you will build. This literally means that the branches of the thought trees become firmly attached.
If you pay only brief attention to the content of your thoughts, your thinking will be on a lower level, with less
synergy. The memory you build in your thought trees will be correspondingly weak. It will be pruned off when you sleep by vacuum cleaners called glial cells. This is what it means to forget. Little glial cells are so essential to brain functioning that your neurons could not work correctly without them.
They provide all the support, resources, and backup, including the nourishment and protection your neurons need to do all that hard work in receiving, analyzing, processing, and storing information. Glial cells also operate as your cleaners generated by the thought trees. So, the glial cells, in effect, sort out your thinking.
They can’t do a good job unless you think clearly. Brain-cell. They dispose of waste material. Faith and fear are spiritual forces with chemical and electrical representation in the body.
How can you have faith and peace with God and rejoice in the hope of the glory of God in your sufferings and tribulations if you have a broken heart? You cannot! If you have a broken heart, again, you will believe the lies of the enemy telling you lies that are opposite to God’s word.
- Cannot understand the things of God. Don't think God loves you like He loves others.
- It develops multiple chemical sensitivities and many other diseases to follow.
- Inability to Recognize God’s Presence.
- Cannot bring forth good things in their lives. They have more things go wrong than good.
- Not being blessed financially even when they give tithes. Only able to stand once your crop comes in (financially).
- Needs help with reading the Word and meditating on the Word.
- Living in mental pain and trapped or preoccupied with the past. Dwelling on adverse events.
- Will seem spiritually asleep and spiritually immature.
- Struggles to understand teaching.
- People in authority who hurt and do not love them have a trust problem.
- They go by feelings and cannot go by faith.
- Come across as a negative person and have chronic hostility, sarcasm, cynicism, critical and judgmental of others.
- They will be caught up in work instead of grace, meaning being performance-oriented to prove their worth.
- Has a hard time receiving love from others or loving themselves.
- Will have a history of seeing psychologists, etc., and even problems with thoughts of suicide.
- They will be negative about everything and not able to see anything positive and will lack peace and joy. History of depression and other mental disorders.
- Will have more things go wrong in their lives.
- Will not know their identity in Christ and know your promises in Him, especially during trials, and hear the truth but cannot hold onto the truth.
- Not able to keep God’s commandments and will have trouble with sin. Prone to adultery and pornography and want to feel love and feel better. Possibly other addictions to food and people such as codependency!
- Will be fearful.
- Will have physical ailments that seem to not go away.
- You will not be able to get rid of your anger and have fits of anger and rage when feeling rejected.
- Will view himself or herself as the sufferer and want self-pity from others.
- Will blame others by holding others responsible for the misery in their life.
- The child is forced to accept the narrow, exclusive religious views of the parent or guardian to the exclusion of any other belief or possibility of any belief
- The child is starved of development in interpersonal skills and relationships in the name of religion
- The child is subjected to strange, unnatural, and often perverse beliefs on sexual matters and sexual development in line with the religious belief.
- The child is discouraged or prevented from associating with anyone not sharing the religious belief of the parent or guardian.
A pastor or minister usually subjects their church members to a hierarchical structure that equates leadership with job titles and demands unquestioning submission and obedience from people lower down the organizational totem pole. In an abusive church, the use of guilt, fear, and intimidation to control members is likely to produce members who have a low self-image, who feel beaten down by legalism, and who have been taught that asserting oneself is not spiritual. Control-oriented leaders attempt to dictate what members think, although the process is so spiritualized that members usually need to realize what is going on.
- Refusal unwillingness or inability to express love
- Conditional love ("I don't love you when you behave like that")
- Loving one child to the exclusion of all others
- Cocooning and smothering, denying the child the opportunity to develop as a separate individual
- Being forced into any conflict between parents
- Being used as a pawn by warring parents
- Being forced into a caring or caretaker role at an inappropriate age
- Witnessing alcohol or substance abuse, especially regularly, perhaps being forced to participate
- Witnessing violence between parents or adults
Psychological abuse, including:
- Constant criticism of a trivial and unjustified nature
- Unjustified blame, often for things that have no connection with the child (scapegoat)
- Refusal to value
- Refusal to acknowledge the child and their achievements and/or praise
- Inconsistency in judgment
- Unclear, shifting, and inconsistent boundaries, sometimes no boundaries, at other times very tight boundaries
- Refusal to make eye contact with the child over a long period
- Refusal of parents to agree with or support each other when dealing with children
- Unpredictable behavior on the part of the parents
"The tongue has the power of life and death" Proverbs 18:21.
Out of the same mouth proceed blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not to be so. Does a spring send forth fresh and bitter water from the same opening? Can a fig tree, my brethren, bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs?” (James 3:10-12).
Some children are more sensitive than others so words can pierce the soul of a child very deeply, especially if they suffer with rejection. Some children are subject to hurtful or cruel parents/grandparents and/or teachers that also can cause deep wounding of the heart.
Sorrow - or heartache is a damaging emotion.
"A happy heart makes the face cheerful, but heartache (sorrow KJV) crushes the spirit" Proverbs 15:13.
Heartbreak is frequently the end product of an unfulfilled desire or craving, the outcome of unrealistic expectations, where another person or some material pursuit is worshipped or idolized. It can also result from an inability to forgive and let go of those who have sinned against us.
"So also my heavenly Father will deal with every one of you if you do not freely forgive your brother from your heart his offences" Matthew 18:35.
A wounded spirit comes as a result of a reaction to negative words, events, actions, or a violation of your person or rights – a re-action that crushes you, knocks you down and from which you cannot seem to raise. It crushes an area of your life – your spirit – that is quite devastating in how it affects us. It seems we cannot heal ourselves of a wounded spirit.
To be betrayed means “to disclose a secret or confidence treacherously; to break a promise, or be disloyal to a person’s trust; to disappoint the expectations of.”
When the children of Benjamin and Judah sought out David in the wilderness, one of the leading question he asked them was, “If you come to betray me to my enemies, seeing there is no wrong in my hands, the God of our fathers look thereon, and rebuke it” (1 Chronicles 12:16-17, KJV).
The worst type of betrayal is usually from parents, second-best friends, and third being hurt by the church leadership.
Sometimes, it is because of jealousy; occasionally, it is just enjoying seeing one put down; other times, it is ignorant gossip. Many false accusations have no effect upon us, but then there comes one that is “a bit close to the bone.” It is directed at a loved one, yourself, or your ministry. If we don’t see those false accusations as being what they are – false!
We can take the accusation “on board,” which lodges in our spirit. We get wounded. This is where honesty is so important. We have to be honest with God, ourselves, and other people. If the accusation is false, keep it false. Don’t allow the enemy to “take us out” because we react wrongly. (If the accusation happens to be accurate, then we need to do something about it).
Such a reaction reinforces the traumatic effect on the child's personality: decrease of self-confidence, self-esteem and self-image, these children do not trust in their inner strengths to deal with life experiences any more, and they are feeling deep mistrust towards environment and future, they are suffering from feelings of helplessness and inner insecurity. Identifying themselves as victims increases these troubles, like a "confirmation" of the children's helplessness and incapacity to face experiences and stimulations coming from the environment.
Conditional Love – conditional love can cause a broken heart. Love is the lifeblood of our spirit. The human heart is where God should reside and manifest His love. Man's spirit body should vibrate in oneness with God's love, directing our physical body's actions.
Conditional love, or loving “if,” is based on someone acting a certain way. In other words, someone who loves with conditions will love a person only if he or she behaves a certain way or lives his or her life in a manner pleasing to the other person. A person who grew up with conditional love will have difficulty accepting God’s love freely. They will be performance-driven to earn God’s love.
Sin - Sin is the curse of humanity! Sin is whatever comes between God and us! It affects our spirit! In Psalm 38, we read of David acknowledging a wounding in his life and spirit:
“Your arrows have pierced me, and your hand has come down upon me . . . there is no health in my body; my bones have no soundness because of my sin. My guilt has overwhelmed me like a burden too heavy to bear. My wounds fester and are loathsome because of my sinful folly . . . ” (Psalm 38:1-5, NIV).
David was hurting because of his guilt and consciousness of sin.
“For your sin is an incurable bruise, a terrible wound. There is no one to help you or to bind up your wound and no medicine does any good. All your lovers have left you and don’t care anything about you any more; for I have wounded you cruelly, as though I were your enemy; mercilessly, as though I were an implacable foe; for your sins are so many, your guilt is so great” (Jeremiah 30:12-14, TLB).
David was hurting because of his guilt and consciousness of sin.
“For your sin is an incurable bruise, a terrible wound. There is no one to help you or to bind up your wound and no medicine does any good. All your lovers have left you and don’t care anything about you any more; for I have wounded you cruelly, as though I were your enemy; mercilessly, as though I were an implacable foe; for your sins are so many, your guilt is so great” (Jeremiah 30:12-14, TLB).
If you struggle with unforgiveness toward your parent for any of the above, try to see that the Lord used your parents to bring life to you. He put it in you to find the Lord as your father to meet all your needs. When we accept Christ, we receive a new identity in Him (2 Cor. 5:17). We become adopted into His kingdom (Romans 8:19).
If a person does not receive the Love that God created us to receive, whether settled or brittle, they will stop loving or never learn to love themselves at all – they will have self-hatred. The area of self-hatred is the most obscure and challenging part of the great commandment. Matthew 22:37-39 “37 Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. 38 This is the first and great commandment. 39 And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself.” How can you love the Lord with all your heart when you don’t have all your heart? How can you love your neighbors or yourself if you have a broken heart?
a. Others b. God c. Self
God is serious about you loving him, as He is serious about you loving Him. He made you in his image. You are joint heirs with Christ. If you don’t love yourself, then you are in self-hatred. That means you are despising God’s creation of you! That is a sin, and you need to repent of it!
Separation in any of these areas affects you in six areas: mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually, relationally, and financially.
A person with a broken heart struggles to discern the voice of God. They usually do not hear the acceptance. They hear less than shame and fear, self-criticism, judgment, self-judgment, self-condemnation, etc. It sounds like their own voice. Why, either God will talk to your spirit, or Satan will speak to your spirit 24/7. There are only two kingdoms out there. When we agree with the voice of the enemy over and over, a stronghold is formed that we believe is true. For example, the enemy tells you that you committed a sin that God will not forgive, and you feel rejected by God. You begin to believe and live out what you believe. Proverbs 23:7 “7 For as he thinks in his heart, so is he."
A person with a broken heart loses sight and never comes to understand their identity in Christ. When we have a broken heart, we don’t believe the promises. You will have a hard time believing it. Why? Because your heart is like a bucket with holes in it. This ensures our brokenness continues because we become overcome by rejection, abandonment, fear, shame, guilt, etc. The nightmares usually progress, often bringing diseases with them because the person with a broken heart gets caught up on the performance wheel - performance, perfection, doing, trying, perfecting. You will strive to prove to the world and yourself that you have value or worth. Or just shut down and live in a silent, merciless hell of isolation, or a little of both.
Sin - Sin is the curse of humanity! Sin is whatever comes between God and us! It affects our spirit! In Psalm 38, we read of David acknowledging a wounding in his life and spirit:
David was hurting because of his guilt and consciousness of sin.
Depression by life experiences in the heart.” Mental and emotional problems!
Proverbs 13:12 “Hope deferred makes the heart sick, But when the desire comes, it is a tree of life.” How do you get a broken heart, feel hopeless for a long period of time, be abused, neglected, conditionally loved, be misused, get into a hopeless situation. Spiritual trouble!
Forgiving Others:
The enemy will continue to bring it to mind. You can forgive and refuse to grab hold of it again. This might go on for weeks because the enemy is an accuser of the saints. So, a form of warfare is to continually submit it to the Lord and confess your unforgiveness or ill feelings of a particular person(s) or event to the Lord. This is also renewing the mind because you are taking every thought captive. The enemy likes to torment and throw thoughts, events, and people back at us that have hurt us.
Matthew 18:21-22 - "Then Peter came to Him and said, 'Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Up to seven times?' Jesus said to him, 'I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven.”
Bitterness and unforgiveness can be a generational stronghold. If your parents could not forgive easily, most likely, you cannot forgive easily and will need the generational stronghold broken.
Jesus then proceeded to give the Parable of the Unforgiving Servant. When the servant failed to have compassion on his fellow servant, Christ gave this severe warning.
Matthew 18:35 -" So My heavenly Father also will do to you if each of you, from his heart, does not forgive his brother his trespasses."
What is the central point--the main lesson— of Christ's parable of the unforgiving servant? God requires of each of us that we forgive others their trespasses or offenses against us. Allow the Lord to deal with the person that hurt you. Otherwise, unforgiveness will be heavy on your heart and bring separation either from God, others or yourself. It allows the enemy the right to bring torment and also to bring sickness. He has the right because the door is open. You will lose out on your blessing.
Third, be willing to release and bless our enemies and pray for them with a right heart. That does not mean to ask God to expose them to others but to have a right heart. Love covers a multitude of sin (1 Peter 4:8)
a negative instead of a positive. Fifth, make it daily or whenever someone hurts you or comes to mind. That means taking every thought captive, as it was said earlier in Ephesians 4:23 -- "... be renewed in the spirit of your mind." Jesus quoted in Matthew 6:9-15 gave the outline in coming to him and how to keep our hearts cleansed and the door shut from the enemy.
- You didn’t have a godly father on earth. The Lord is your actual father who you will be spending eternity with
- You don’t see that He has a plan and a purpose for your life and knows what is best for you because of the pain of the past and having a broken heart.
- You blame God instead of the enemy that is out to kill, steal, and destroy YOU!
- You believe the Lord is not for you!
- What happens when we don’t deal with broken hearts/wounded spirits and/or refuse to forgive in all three areas (others, God, and you)? The enemy will have a right to access your life in six different areas such as mentally, emotionally, spiritually, physically, financially, and relationally.
- Separation (others, god, and yourself) with the enemy trying to kill, steal, and destroy you and your relationship with others and God. You will not be able to draw near because of trust issues.
- You will have a hard time trusting other people around you. Sometimes, I struggle with paranoia.
- Evidence of more curses in our lives than blessings in either or all mental, physical, spiritual, emotional, relational, and financial problems.
- Suffer from anxiety attacks (emotional, mental – a spirit of fear), problems, and sickness in your body because of what anxiety does to the immune system because you are not able to trust the Lord with your whole heart.
- The enemy will cause destruction in your family through your children going into captivity because of unforgiveness, sins, and sins of iniquities from forefathers. Daniel 9 talks about the iniquities or sins of the forefathers that Daniel dealt with and confessed to the nation of Israel.
- The enemy (spiritually) will rob you of experiencing joy or peace.
- The enemy will bombard you with temptations to get you to sin, and you will have problems with addictions (drugs, sex, work, computers, pornography, etc.
- Will not be able to have a victorious life and be depressed and even suffer from suicidal thoughts, especially when the storms of life come because he is out to kill, steal, and destroy you. You don’t feel justified or have faith or feel hopeless. You will not be able to glorify the Lord in your tribulation.
- God cannot forgive you, and you are not under his protective covering. The enemy has access to your life – mentally, spiritually, emotionally, physically, financially, and relationally to keep you in pain, such as tormenting you with flashbacks and nightmares.
- You will most likely be driven to please people, striving to prove to the world and yourself that you have value or worth because of low self-esteem, shame, a spirit of rejection, abandonment, etc. You will believe the lies of the enemy because you don’t know who you are in Christ, and you are listening to the wrong kingdom (spirit of accusation – you are not listening to the voice of love but of hate). You will have strongholds of the mind.
- You will be plagued by different types of diseases.
- You will fight to keep from financial ruin.
Step 4 - Letting go of the past and reaching forward toward the future and the next time someone hurts you.
Philippians 3:13-15-"Brethren, I do not count myself to have apprehended; but one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead, I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus. Therefore, let us, as many as are mature, have this mind."
The memory of the event or person might still be there but the sting can be removed after forgiveness and/or God or someone that can pull the pain up and out removes the pain. The Lord is the restorer of all things. He can take all things and turn them for good. For example, an area you were tormented by the enemy with and you got the victory. You now have a testimony to share and encourage others of your victory in Him. You can praise the Lord for what He has done! Then the enemy has no power over you in this area to torment you with.
Just remember to "Keep and guard your heart with all vigilance and above all that you guard (your heart), for out of it flows the springs of life." (Proverbs 4:23)
Recognize – every thought that comes to you comes from some kingdom. Is it accusation, guilt, shame, rejection, etc. or is it love. 2 Corinthians 10:4-6 “4For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, 5casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ, 6and being ready to punish all disobedience when your obedience is fulfilled.” We react to every thought that comes into our minds. It changes the chemicals in our mind. We need to learn renewed in my minds and freed from strongholds.
Responsibility – regardless how much abuse you have had you are still responsible for your sin. If someone hurts you, it is your responsibility to forgive him or her. Psalms 51:2-4 “2Wash me thoroughly from my iniquity, And cleanse me from my sin. 3For I acknowledge my transgressions, And my sin is always before me. 4Against You, You only, have I sinned, And done this evil in Your sight-- That You may be found just when You speak, And blameless when You judge.
Repent – I recognize sin and taken responsibility for it and I’m choosing to turn from it. I let it go. 1 John 1:9 “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”
Renounce – (he was renouncing it very clearly) – Paul did not want to sin. Romans 7:14-25 “15 For what I am doing, I do not understand. What I will do, that I do not practice; but what I hate, that I do. 16If, then, I do what I will not do, I agree with the law that it is good. 17 But now, I no longer do it, but sin dwells in me. 18 For I know that in me (that is, in my flesh) nothing good dwells; for to will is present with me, but how to perform what is good I do not find. 19 For the good that I will do, I do not do; but the evil I will not do, that I practice. 20 Now if I do what I will not do, it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells in me. 21 I find then a law, that evil is present with me, the one who wills to do good. 22 For I delight in the law of God according to the inward man. 23 But I see another law in my members, warring against the law of my mind, and bringing me into captivity to the law of sin in my members. 24 O wretched man that I am! Who will deliver me from this body of death? 25 I thank God--through Jesus Christ our Lord! So then, with the mind, I serve the law of God, but with the flesh, the law of sin.
Remove It – remove the temptation or sin, such as rejection, etc. Mathew 4:1-5 “1 Then Jesus was led up by the Spirit into the wilderness to be tempted by the devil. 2 And when He had fasted forty days and forty nights, he was hungry. 3 Now when the tempter came to Him, he said, "If You are the Son of God, command that these stones become bread." 4 But He answered and said, "It is written, "Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceeds from the mouth of God." 5 Then the devil took Him up into the holy city and set Him on the pinnacle of the temple, 7Jesus said to him, "It is written again, "You shall not tempt the LORD your God." 8Again, the devil took Him up on an exceedingly high mountain, and showed Him all the kingdoms of the world and their glory. 9 And he said to Him, "All these things I will give You if You will fall down and worship me." 10 Then Jesus said to him, "Away with you, Satan! It is written, "You shall worship the LORD your God, and Him only you shall serve."
Resist - Accusation will try to come back, so resist it. That is why we need to discern good and evil. The Devil gives afflictions. I Peter 5:6-9 “6 Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time, 7casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you. 8 Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour. 9Resist him, steadfast in the faith, knowing that the same sufferings are experienced by your brotherhood in the world.”
Our Thoughts Affect the Brain
We are conceived with specific needs. What are they?
To be:
You have around 100 trillion of them in your brain, and each can grow.
70,000 branches!! Neurons These are highly complex neuronal structures involved in the process of continually receiving and integrating information coming into the senses. The information is translated into electrical impulses and transported across
As you think and start developing a thought by building memory, the thought activates a part of your brain. The
your thought life.
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A thought is shown actually to cause structural changes in
a cell’s makeup on the outside and even deep down to theby Traci Morin
Touch of God International Ministries of Healing and Deliverance and Anxiety Coach - Anxious2Victorious Women
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